Wednesday, March 28, 2012

Hug Like That

The human condition is filled with suffering.  Most of our suffering is due to us not accepting what is.  We try to hold on, to deny, to control and to resist.  We often don't know how to begin to accept that we are all of a nature to grow old, have ill health, suffer and die.  It takes so much bravery and presence of mind to accept our “temporariness”.  How many of us are willing to hug our loved ones as Thich Nhat Hanh teaches?  As you hug someone, think like this; First, I am here and you are not.  Second, you are here and I am not.  Third, we are both here right now.  What a powerful realization that can be the first time you try it.  Does the sadness and pain outweigh the real point of the process?  I certainly did for me.  Try hugging your child that way and not feeling intense emotion.  That emotion is exactly what we need to bring up and deal with.  Let it come.  Let the tears, the fear, the anger come.  Accept what is.  Let it come up, look at it, welcome it and then let it go gently.  Then, go back to the most important part of the process – we are both here right now.  Know that right now is everything. Cherish this moment and hug like that - every time.

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23 comments:

TexWisGirl said...

an interesting lesson...

Sharon said...

Good post!

Lisa @ Two Bears Farm said...

This fits right in with what I've been working on lately - I just finished watched Eckhart Tolle's Findhorn Retreat - 4 hours on dvd about embracing stillness and being present. It's hard in the face of adversity, but lessons we all need to work on.

Sall's Country Life said...

Very wise lesson!! Have a wonderful day!

Deb said...

I think people have a hard time living in the present they are too busy regretting the past and fearing the future...just enjoy this second...this minute...each moment...

Chatty Crone said...

For hugs a day - that is the minimum for good health! sandie

Lori Skoog said...

This would be perfect for my Tai Chi class to hear. Thank you for posting!

Deb said...

:-)

Rain said...

wonderfully said Michaele!! I've been away a week and missed my blogger friends and their wisdom!!
~~Rain

Marissa @Life On Our Side Of The Mountain said...

I like it. I needed it.

Happier Than a Pig in Mud said...

Very timely advice, this comes at a time when one of the guys I work with is losing his mother. That brings many thoughts, questions and feelings:@)

Candy C. said...

What a lovely post, thank you for reminding us that right now is what is important!

Gail said...

A wonderful way of living...in the moment.

OLLIE MCKAY'S ~ A Chic Boutique said...

What a great post and wonderful lesson! Loved it! Thanks for the uplifting lesson on this beautiful day! Heard things in NE have been warm and wonderful too! :-)

DebH said...

My daughter in law has helped instill the hugging and with every parting, she always says..Love You. Its changed our family. After we've experienced some pretty sad events, the one thing that always helps is that simple hug. What a thoughtful post. I love it!

Charlotte said...

Well said.

missing moments said...

Only the way .... living in the moment!

Randy said...

Great post.

Annette said...

I like this and will try it. ...I'll probably burst into tears, too.

Snooks said...

Actions to live by. Words to always be thinking. Good post.

@ 3Beeze Homestead

Jennifer said...

Powerful

Coloring Outside the Lines said...

Living in the now is just hard to do. So many of us carry over burdens until we are filled to the brim with the past and have no room for the here and now. Good lesson Michaele

Ronda said...

Very powerful thinking! In my family in a short period of time, we had a series of unfortunate events. When that happens, little by little you learn to see things exactly that way. That way of thinking ultimately releases a person to be...
HAPPY in the moment!